Pick your battles

You saw my son, with his big brown eyes and beautiful contagious smile. You watched him run into the park with adventure pulsing through his little body. You saw me follow behind reminding him to be aware and considerate of the couple of kids there, you smiled at me and said hi. 

More kids came, the park is getting louder, I’m all out of the snack my son asked for, the blue car he wants is at home, the ice in his cup has melted and now he begins to melt as well. He screams, he threw his green car that just 20 seconds ago he was happily driving around the park. I quickly scoop him up and hold him tight, he starts hitting me. I can feel you watching me, I can see the judgment. He bit me, it broke the skin and I’m bleeding. You’re still watching.

I don’t raise my voice, I don’t get angry. He is the storm and for him, I have to be the calm. This is a sensory meltdown and he is incapable of controlling himself. It will end and he will go back to happily driving around his car, or it won’t end here and I’ll take him to where he feels safe and can come back to me. You might still be watching and that’s ok. You might have hastily taken your child away like others have done and that’s ok too.

This is his battle, this is the battle I pick and it is the one I will always pick. Your judgement is not my battle. 

To all of you out there fighting a similar fight, you are not alone. 

Fate whispers to the Warrior, you cannot withstand the storm. The warrior whispers back, I am the storm. 

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Proudly sporting her ‘Pick your battles’ vintage cap

Mother together

world breast-feeding week

When the lovely Oat Mama asked us to join in this years ‘Mother Together’ event it was a no brainer for us.  Having successfully nursed all three of my babies breastfeeding is something I’m passionate about as a mother and as a woman I love to help support other women during their nursing journey… it’s not always the easiest journey.

Nursing was not something that personally came easy to me or without many struggles, meltdowns and hours of lactation help.  My nursing journey was filled with all of the above and you can safely say I had every emotion during my early nursing experiences with our first-born.  From using an SNS system to six months on a nipple shield with bruised and battered black boobs  that ultimately ended up fighting double mastitis TWICE you can say I truly got the FULL experience as a first time nursing mother.

Somehow through it all with the love and support of my husband who I might add was the real pro nursing advocate in the beginning (I was not) and the help of a wonderful free lactation weekly support group in my town I survived those early years as a breast-feeding mother.  I went on to successfully nurse our sweet daughter until she was 18 months followed by our second for 19 months and finally our last baby for two years.  Had I not had the support systems in place with a loving husband, helpful tribe of women and nurses along with local groups I honestly don’t think I would have survived it ladies.

Now my nursing days are long behind me but when I see a mama nursing in public I give her a smile and nod or even most recently I was visiting my dear friend who is pumping for two I tried to give her extra encouragement (she’s pretty bad ass Hello TWINS) lets face it we all can use that ‘Mother together’ comradery whether you choose to nurse, formula feed, or do both Mama’s gotta stick together ladies we’re in it TOGETHER!!! #fedisbest

In the spirit of sticking together and showing Moms some love we are so excited to be in this year’s ‘Mother Together’ shopping guide with over 30+ stores all giving YOU some discount love to celebrate your journey during world breast feeding week.  Click on this link https://www.oatmama.com/pages/mother-together-shopping-guide to see all the amazing shops coming together!!






Get Freshly… a mompreneur lifesaver!

healthy meals are my Nemesis

Being a mompreneur to three kids while running this little business doesn’t always leave me much time to focus on healthy eating or eating in general LOL. Between the summer hustle of playdates and sports commitments I honestly haven’t had that overabundance of time I thought I’d have to start eating better.  I’ve been exploring some options of local meal prep services and some home delivery companies to take some of the stress and workload off my busy plate so giving Freshly a try was a no brainer for this busy mama.

Freshly is a company that is composed of chefs who work to cook your meals weekly and can be prepared in three minutes….even I can spare three minutes to eat a good meal if it’s on hand!

These meals help make eating convenient, healthy, delicious, and sustainable! They are served fresh and are kept chilled through ice packs in the refrigerated boxes which leaves the meals delicious and as fresh as possible.

I got four gourmet meals shipped right to my door which included Chicken Parmigiana, Penne Bolognese, Veggie Fried Rice, and Shrimp Fajita. With Freshly you can pick meals from a changing menu where you custom make your meal plan for the week. The facility is gluten and peanut free to limit cross contamination and will accommodate dietary preferences. Plans are also easy to cancel which makes Freshly that much more convenient as you are not committed to an every week schedule and can cancel whenever you please! 

This awesome lifesaver package arrived just in time for my busy week and was perfectly packed and chilled even in our 105 degree SoCal weather.


I poured myself a nice refreshing glass of water and dug right into my four meal pack.  Our newest pint glass makes the perfect cold beverage companion on a hot day.

Grab one here https://www.weestructed.com/collections/tchotchke/products/raising-tiny-humans-is-exhausting-beer-glass

My first meal was this yummy Penne Bolognese which happens to be a specialty of my husbands so I’m a tough critic but this yummy pasta dish sure passed my test.

Meal two was this zesty Shrimp fajita and fresh roasted corn I added a side of lime and a cold sparking lime water on the side.  This was the perfect easy dinner after taking my boys to football practice ….three minutes and dinner was served! Our stemless Motherhood winging it glass was perfect for my mini mama fiesta.

For my third meal I had this amazing Chicken Parmigiana and broccoli with a sparking water….a nice wine would have been better but I forgot the wine section on my last shopping trip distracted mom fail because ‘raising tiny humans is exhausting’ and you forget the important things like WINE!

My final Freshly meal was this tasty veggie fried rice which made the PERFECT workday healthy lunch option for me.  I normally just eat a quick sandwich of whatever my littlest left on his plate.

I loved everything I received in my four meal plan pack and ease of having these healthy options on hand and ready in under three minutes is truly a busy mama’s lifesaver so thank you FRESHLY for taking some of the stress off this week for me.

Our new friends at Freshly are giving our followers a chance to try their service with a special code.  Use code: dlvr638, which gives first time Freshly users $20 off their 6 meal plan!!!!!

Let me know what you think of these yummy quick healthy options!





You rock!

Last week my kids and I were invited to participate in the Murrieta Rocks Facebook which is a simple DIY project to spend time with your kids and brightening up someones day with a cute painted rock with a positive message.

I bought all the supplies at Michaels and only spent $3 for 3 different colored paints and purchased a whole paintbrush pack for $5. We bought rocks from Michaels as well, but they had a polished finish around them and no paint could stick onto them. We then had to make a trip to Lowes to buy unpolished river rocks which were perfect to paint.

The kids and I spent all afternoon together painting something positive and then we placed them around Murrieta Town Square. We helped contribute to making Murrieta a more positive and supportive city and we hope more people  join in!

Share your rocks with us on Facebook or Instagram using hashtag #weestructedrocks… hope to see more encouragement and positivity around town!

Summertime in SoCal

The first day of summer calls for a fiesta

I’ll admit it: we Southern Californians are spoiled with the weather. We basically have a uniform of tees and flip flops all year round, and get upset when we have to put on more than a lightweight sweater. In true form, we find it necessary to celebrate the first day of Summer, our most favorite of the seasons. No school, late sunsets and Taco Tuesday every day of the week.

And this year for the Summer Solstice, we’ve decided to pair up with a few of our favorite Southern California-based brands to bring you a mini fiesta with (what we consider) Cali Essentials. Enjoy!

Ingredients for a successful mini fiesta:

Chips! We love chips. Like, we may be obsessed with them. And Cabo Chips may be our newest obsession. Non-GMO, gluten free and DELICIOUS with multiple flavors to choose from. This SoCal brand is seriously rad, and can be found at Whole Foods and here: cabochips.com

We recently came across O.C. based shop Live Styled, and instantly fell in love with their clean aesthetic. Plus, who doesn’t love a onesie with a bit of humor?! Grab one for your lil bebe here: lifestyledshop.com

And just for our viewers, Live Styled is offering a discount code. Take 15% off your purchase of pouches, mama, baby and toddler items when you use LIVESTYLED15 at checkout.

What better way to claim your love for being a California mama than with our OG design “Cali Mama” trucker hat?! Lightweight and perfect for the beach, river or around town shopping, this cap speaks for itself. Pick yours up here: weestructed.com

Our Cali Cub trucker is the perfect head gear to get your wee ones through those warm summer days. The mesh back keeps their noggins well ventilated and ready for action. Will fit ages 2-12. Pick a few up for your tiny humans here: weestructed.com

Use code: MOMMYANDME for 20% the purchase of Cali Mama and Cali Cub hats!

Cali Mama’s shorts are from Target, and can be found here: target.com

Tunic from our Simply Motherhood collection. Pick one up here: weestructed.com

“Kitchen Rules” sign by The Bee and The Fox. Find yours here: thebeeandthefox.com




Working Class Mom

In today’s day and age, it’s hard to define one’s self a with a single word. We are more than just mom, business owner, or grocery store connoisseur. We are a combination of these (along with a slew of about 3,496 other words at any given moment). We are our own superhero on the good days, and our worst critic on the not-so-good days. But somehow, we always manage to make it through. We are the WORKING CLASS MOM club, and we are awesome.

For me personally, the last few years have been exceptionally trying. Starting a business while raising 3 tiny humans is insanity, but also amazing. They are, obviously, the inspiration for WeeStructed, and without them, this pipe dream would have never happened. WORKING CLASS MOM was heavily influenced by this juxtaposition between my life and work, and my love for John Lennon. Go figure.

If you’ve been contemplating your current season of life with mom hood, work life, or a combination of those and other obstacles/struggles/life nonsense, we salute and support you! You are indeed, a WORKING CLASS MOM, and you are a badass mama.

Below I’ve listed a few of my favorite go-to’s when in full #bosslady mode. They help to keep me a little more organized during the day so I can get back to mom life a bit sooner.

I love a good ringer tee, hence my need to make this. Super soft and lightweight. Perfect for you to wear during the upcoming Summer months while you conquer the world. Find your size here: weestructed.com

Clearly the mug says it all. Find your’s at: weestructed.com

Handmade coasters by the ever so lovely Madison & Grand. These are seriously the cutest, and add a touch of warmth to any office space. Check them out here: madisonandgrand.com

I don’t know about you, but gold anything makes me feel fancy. Check out these rad shears from Nate Berkus for Target. Heavy duty with a touch of class. Get yourself a pair here: target.com

Sometimes we need a quick pick-me-up in the middle of the day. And while Prosecco is preferred, a small affirmation plaque can be just as gratifying. I keep this baby on my desk for when I’m feeling a little less-than stellar. Grab one here: amazon.com

Every agenda/planner needs a personal touch, and this paperclip/bookmark is everything I strive to be. Get your’s at: etsystudio.com

Bando seriously makes the CUTEST AGENDAS you guys. I’m currently waiting for my 2018 edition to come in the mail 🙂 Find your inner organized diva and treat her to one of these beauties. They even come with pages of stickers; STICKERS! Get it here: bando.com

Mini plaques are where it’s at! We recently started stocking these lil guys and I couldn’t be more stoked. Put it on your desk and remind yourself that you are indeed, a Mother Tasker! Pick up one (or three) here: weestructed.com

Alright, you ladies ready to take on the world?! I know I am. USE CODE: WORKIT for 20% off our entire WORKING CLASS MOM COLLECTION FOUND HERE https://www.weestructed.com/collections/working-class-mom








Earth Day Everyday

garden party with the babes:


I’ve been working with Kelsey at Trader Joe’s for a little over two years now. In that time, I’ve seen her grow from a quirky 20 year old to a rad mom of little dude, Braddocks and a full-time psychology student at UC San Marcos.

We started chatting more frequently last summer over a shared obsession with Lady of the Lake and oracle cards (that’ll be a post for a different day). She shared with me that these interests, along with her Eco-Feminism class for school, opened her eyes to home gardening, and in turn, a healthier lifestyle for herself and baby B.

I got to visit the two at their home last week to see what they’d been up to, and I was pleasantly surprised. Kelsey has carefully mapped out her yard according to the amount of sun each area gets in a day. Rows of delicately placed fruits, vegetables and herbs line half the vicinity, while tomatoes stand guard next to the fence. She’s placed potted succulent gardens throughout the opposite end of the yard, along with a beautiful apple tree her grandmother planted some years ago. Braddock wanders around with a small shovel in his hand, happy as can be. It’s beautiful. And its only just begun.

Kelsey told me her main reason for starting the garden was to teach Braddocks about sustainability and hard work. Yes, she knows he’s only a toddler, but she believes what is instilled in him now will continue throughout his life. Connecting with one’s environment and being fully aware of what you put into your body is so important. Kelsey also told me that she hopes having good eating habits now will help him with choices in the future. Their diet is mainly vegetarian, using organic produce (or produce from their garden) as often as possible.

Gardening in the backyard has been a spiritual experience for Kelsey as well. “It’s inspiring to see something grow from a tiny seed to something you can eat. It’s been so therapeutic for me.” She pointed out the strawberry plant and said that each morning her and B go outside to see if any berries have arrived. Braddocks gets to pick out and munch on any newbies for the day. “It’s become almost a ritual for us. Before we eat breakfast, we go outside to water the garden and he immediately b-lines to the strawberry plant. He loves it.”

What’s next for the garden? A chicken coop, naturally.

She lowers her voice at the end of my evening with the two and tells me of a few tricks up her sleeve to keep the garden in check. “Organic moisture control compost and coffee grounds from work,” she says. “Oh, and if you’re too impatient to wait for seeds to sprout, you can always buy the potted herbs from Trader Joes instead.”

Kelsey inspired me in a lot of ways that evening. Her passion for giving life to something, and her passion for wanting to share that with her son is remarkable. It gives me hope for future generations. I don’t have children of my own yet, but I am confident that when I do, I will be gardening with my little ones because of her.

Happy Earth Day to you and your loved ones. If you can’t plant something today, at least take in the fresh air and fill your body with healthy choices. And remember to always RAISE GOOD HUMANS.


Teacher Appreciation Summer Edition

Summer lovin’

3 reasons to be a teacher June, July and August.

Teachers work hard all year long. Along with teaching, they also help in raising our tiny humans.

Summer is a chance for teachers to kick up their feet, soak in some sunshine, and have adventures with their own good humans in progress. We at WeeStructed decided to put together this easy-peasy appreciation gift perfect to say THANK YOU for a year of educating our tiny humans (and to please, have a relaxing summer because you deserve it)!



We are loving this bright and cheery, A+ turkish towel from our friends at Hayneedle.com


Sun protection

Lines are for paper, not our faces. Keep your favorite teacher properly protected with our favorite sunscreen by Sun Bum. We love the 50 SPF original and its yummy topical scent.



Add some extra protection with a fun pair of shades (like these amazing hearts) from our friends at Subsidyshades.com #Iheartteachers, do you?

USE CODE: WEE for 15% off their site



Teachers carry books, supplies, and hopefully their sanity all school year long. Grab one of our ‘Teaching Tiny Humans Is Exhausting®’ brand big red totes for all those summer goodies, and more!



Everyone loves a gift card, especially when it can go towards a purchase or their choice. We, of course, love Target for pretty much EVERYTHING!



Reading is a must for teachers, especially over the summer. So how about a new book for the class next fall? A magazine to lounge around the pool with?  Or a notebook to jot down summer bucket list ideas?  We love this fun book ‘Pete the Cat’s Groovy Guide to Life.’ Hint: We can all learn a few lessons from Pete!



Here’s our finished gift:


We hope you love this summer appreciation gift idea as much as we do. Remember the very truthful quote…

‘Summer vacation is the time when parents realize that teachers are grossly underpaid”

– anonymous












Waffles for Dinner

a Birthday tradition

Birthdays are special. They celebrate the day you came into this big world. Each one is a celebrated milestone simply because, well, you’re still alive; and that’s worth celebrating, am I right people?!

I can’t remember crazy birthday celebrations or Pinterest worthy parties from my childhood. I’m pretty sure the wildest party I had was at a Chuck E. Cheese’s, but one thing I remember is waffles for dinner.  My siblings and I were raised with the help of our Great Aunt and Uncle. They were our surrogate grandparents and the backbone to our family.  They were incredibly kind and hardworking folks from the Midwest who came to California in the 50’s for opportunities the golden state had to offer.  Although they only had one biological child (due to complications from childbirth and a full hysterectomy at age 20), my Great Aunt once told me God provided her with more children then she could have possibly ever birthed. To me, this was a pretty awesome perspective to have. They instilled in me so many of the core values and traditions I still hold true to. I will forever be thankful for the time I had with them both. It was priceless; and it helped to mold me into the person (and parent) I am now.

As I got older, my Great Aunt would ask me what I wanted for my birthday. I didn’t want her to spend money or have to go out shopping, so I would ask her to make me waffles for dinner.  I absolutely loved her waffles, and breakfast for dinner is by far, my favorite quirky family tradition. It’s the best. Seriously, kids think it’s down right magical to have breakfast for dinner. It messes with their little heads in the best way possible.

Her meals were always served on time and always consistent. If you stopped by their house at 5PM, you were guarenteed a plate. It was an assembly line of family and friends every night at my Great Aunt’s. The house was always full because all were welcome. Dinner traditions included men and children getting served first. This is one I still follow today (when I actually cook). Side note: I don’t cook all that often (I’m a terrible cook people).  On special waffle dinner/birthday night, I got served first, and I even got dibs on the second waffle out of her maker. She always wanted it to be hot and fresh, just for me. I remember sitting at their table, watching her make my waffles in what was probably the oldest waffle maker from Sears known to man.  I can still picture her manning the maker and warming the Mrs. Butterworth syrup. She always paired it with a freshly poured glass of cold milk for me. Gosh I miss her so (and Pop, you know I miss you. And your jokes about the fact I could eat like 4 large waffles).

Simple traditions are the things I believe we hold onto. They are the things that stick with us in the end. It’s not the elaborate parties or loads of presents we remember (a good party is a great memory maker). For me, it’s the time people take with us that makes us feel special and feel loved. My Great Aunt’s birthday supper for me every year is one of my most cherished memories.

Today I carry on the tradition by enjoying a helping of waffles at our local diner to celebrate. Cheers to many more birthdays in the future. A special thank you to Tiss & Baba for all the love you showed me growing up. And for making my birthdays so special with a simple waffle and love!











Minty Island Paradise!

Cool, calm and collected: Island Paradise is everything!

We are seriously crushing hard over the Spring/Summer 2017 shade Island Paradise. Are you?!

Island Paradise is a refreshing aqua that calls to mind a change of scenery. A cool blue green shade that speaks to our dream of the great escape. Island Paradise is emblematic of tropical settings and our desire to unwind. Now I need a cocktail.

Here are a few of our spring/summer must haves in this dreamy shade:

  • For the home, we are in love with Eames Molded Plastic Chairs. These stylish, easy-to-clean chairs add a modern (and kid approved) pop of color to the dinner table or desk area.
  • As a girl from Southern California, you’re kind of obligated to have at least 3 pairs of Vans in    your closet. Hence, their appearance on my list. These mint-hued Authentic Vans are super rad and will add a splash of color to any outfit. They’re definitely on my wishlist for my birthday.

  • If you haven’t already added a pair of large leather earrings to your wardrobe, you are missing out. These statement pieces are everything and they won’t weigh down your lobes. Party! We found these adorable teardrops on Etsy.com 

  • Give me ALL the items at Bando.com. I swear, I love everything they make.  My friend Rosemary turned me onto them two years ago and I can’t get enough. Look at this adorable bag that reads ” I AM VERY BUSY.” Side note: I, of course, would keep bandaids and legos in this, I’m sure, as my kids take over all my bags. #truth
  • Check out this nail polish by Essie in Mint Candy Apple. I’m pretty sure this hue will be on my toes for the next several months.
  • For those of us “Barely Gettin’ Through Tomorrow!”  grab our newest design, inspired by the great Dolly herself. This fun graphic tee will be sure to brighten up your wardrobe, and your day!

Our new hat is sure to help you get through the day too!

USE CODE : MINT for 15% off our new hat expires 4/10/17

Hope you enjoyed my minty ’round- up.’ Now get out there and incorporate this yummy shade into your Spring/Summer wardrobe!

Also, check out our obsession with Rose Quartz for spring here in our previous blog post for even more color inspiration for the season!